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Getting healthy. That is the whole point of my entire blog. It’s not getting skinny. It’s not losing weight. It’s all about getting healthy. Being healthy deals with a lot more than just the number that you see on the scale. To get healthy, you have to start by liking the person you see in the mirror everyday. If you don’t have a positive body image, there are some things you can do to help with that. If you like these tips, you can thank my wife for these tips. She is the one who taught me all of these tricks!

Words of Wisdon

Words of Wisdom

Do Not Pick Yourself Apart Limb By Limb

You just stepped out of the shower. You happen to look in the mirror, and you start looking at everything you hate about your body. Next thing you know, you can’t find one thing you like about your body. The key thing to remember is that your body is not perfect and it never will be. There will always be things that you would prefer to look differently. Understand that, and only focus on those body parts when you are taking active steps to correct them. The rest of the time, focus on what you like about your body. If you continue to swear up and down that there is nothing to like about your body, at least try to find things that aren’t as bad as the other parts. Focusing on the negative all the time will make it seem like you are facing an insurmountable goal. Stay positive. It seems obvious to say that staying positive is essential to having a positive body image, but it can’t be reiterated enough.

Dress Your Body Appropriately

The biggest mistake most people make when they look at themselves in the mirror is they don’t wear clothes that make them look attractive. It is possible, regardless of what size you currently are. You may not think that is possible, but I promise you that it is. It’s all about picking out correct sizes and understanding what is going to look good on your body.

Don’t Wear Clothes That Are Too Big

A common misconception that many have who are trying to dress their body in an attractive manner is to wear clothes that are too big. I did this for years. The logic is that if I wear things that are too big, then people will think I am smaller because my clothes are so big. That couldn’t be any further from the truth. People are going to assume that there is more of your body there. On top of that, add in the fact that you look slouchy and unkempt when you wear clothes that are too big. Nothing about that is attractive

Don’t Wear Clothes That Are Too Tight

This is also true, but for the opposite reason. Clothes that are too big make people assume that there is more person under the clothes. Clothes that are too tight highlight areas that you don’t want highlighted, or they are going to squeeze parts of your body that don’t need to be squeezed. It’s not going to do anything for your self-esteem to see fat get squeezed into a ball because you wore a shirt that was one size too small. If you are trying to lose weight, I know you are probably wanting to get into smaller sizes, but getting into that smaller size too soon isn’t going to do anything to help you reach your goals. That brings me to my next point.

Don’t Be A Slave To Size

Every single clothes manufacturer makes their sizes a little differently. I like to think of sizes as more of a suggestion, not a hard fast rule. For example, I wear a size 32 for most of the pants I wear. There are a few brands where I need a larger size and some where I need a smaller size. Don’t let it get you down if you see that you lose weight and try on some brand new clothes, but your size according to the manufacturer hasn’t changed. It may just be they make their clothes smaller than most. Find something that fits, not a size you want to fit.

If you want to be successful, at some point, you are going to have to like your body. You can’t always hate it. There is nothing wrong with wanting to make changes, especially if your motivation is to get healthier, but if you are ever going to have a positive body image, you have to start thinking positively starting today. Changing that thought process isn’t easy. That’s the reason we have so many health problems related to our weight today. People just don’t like what they see in the mirror.

I hope this helps you to get the positive body image you need. Have a great day ladies and gentlemen, and may all of your fitness dreams come true.



Get Healthy, Not Skinny

Posted: February 20, 2013 by Justin M. Strawn in Encouragement
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Exercising and eating right is about being healthy, not being skinny.

Exercising and eating right is about being healthy, not being skinny.

Our society is obsessed with weight. I wish I could say it was obsessed with health, but that wouldn’t be true. If it were true, I wouldn’t be writing this blog post because that would be a good thing to be obsessed with. Unfortunately, with the way our society projects what we deem to beautiful is often an unrealistic, unachievable, and on too many occasions, unhealthy body weight. So how does one overcome it? There are some things I believe you can do to make sure you don’t cave in to the pressure that society puts on so many people.


Confidence is such a funny thing. It can come from different areas for different people. One person can draw tons of confidence from their family, while another may draw a lot of confidence from athletic competition. I have often talked about how exercise is a great confidence builder for me. Regardless of where it comes from, the one place it doesn’t need to come from is the number that pops up on the scale. It can come from how healthy you feel, but health and weight aren’t always interchangeable. Your weight is only one part of having a healthy body, there are a lot of other factors that determine your health level.

Scale Obsession

It’s good to know your weight. It’s not good to use it as your sole basis for your health. One of the hardest things to do for someone who is trying to lose weight is to transition from looking at the scale to looking at how you feel to determine your health. You also have to use a little bit of common sense. If you eat a whole bunch of fatty foods over the course of time, you know you won’t be as healthy as you should be. If you are eating right, and exercising regularly, don’t just assume that you aren’t getting healthy if the number on the scale isn’t coming down. You could be adding muscle to your body, and it has been well documented that muscle is much heavier than fat. I’ll admit that I struggle with this as well, but I am better than I used to be.

This is not a look to aspire to.

This is not a look to aspire to.

Ignoring Society

There are a lot of good things about society, but the way we portray beauty and we perceive as beauty is detrimental. There is no reason that women who are around 6’0″ tall should weight around 100 pounds. That’s ridiculous. Being thin is something that most people want. That is a healthy goal. Being skinny is typically having too little weight. There are a number of health problems that you can acquire by having too little weight. I’m not going to go into them, but it’s just not a good idea. If you’re not happy with your weight, please ask yourself what about it that makes you unhappy. Don’t try to make your happiness dependent upon what someone else says or thinks. That’s good advice for all areas of your life, not just your weight. There are lots of reasons I can think of to be unsatisfied with your weight (diabetes, knee and back issues to name a few) but because someone tells you that you need to lose some weight that doesn’t have the letters Dr. in front of their name should not be one of them.

Healthy and skinny are not synonyms. It’s great to have goals that put you on the road to living a healthy lifestyle, but starving yourself to reach a certain weight is far from healthy. Don’t get your sense of worth from your weight, fashion or any other place that is ultimately insignificant.

I hope you have a great day ladies and gentlemen, and may all of your fitness dreams come true! (as long as they are healthy goals)


Men vs. Women

Posted: February 15, 2013 by Justin M. Strawn in Encouragement
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Why do men lose weight so much easier than women?

Why do men lose weight so much easier than women?

I think we all know that men have an easier time losing weight than women. But why? What is it about men that gives them such an advantage in losing weight? Men can lose weight much easier than women and there are tons of examples of that. When I decided six years ago to get in shape, I only made a few minor changes and watched the pounds fly off. I eventually had to make additional changes to keep it coming off, but at first, it was relatively easy to lose the weight. I think I have some ideas about why that might be the case. Understand, I am not a nutrition expert, and these are all my assumptions about the differences between men and women. I don’t have any scientific evidence that verifies anything in this post. What I do have is common sense, and I think everything in this particular post makes sense.

The Height Advantage

Men typically are taller. I found different numbers, but the consensus seems to be that the average height of a man is about 5’10” or 5’11” and the average height of a woman is about 5’4″. The taller you are, the more weight you can carry. The more you weigh, the more calories you burn in a day just simply being alive. If men on average are 6 or 7 inches taller than women, then I think it is pretty logical they are going to start off with more weight which means they will burn more calories.

Staying Motivated

If men lose weight easier, then they will see more results on the scale. If they see more results on the scale, then men will probably be more likely to stay motivated. Also, women typically lose in areas that they don’t care as much about at first (i.e. arms, legs, breasts). So when a woman loses weight initially, she may not see the results in the mirror like she might prefer. This can cause her to lose motivation pretty quickly. Men almost always gain in the belly first, and then lose in the belly first; therefore they will see results that they like which will in turn keep them motivated.

It may be easier for men to lose weight, but that doesn't make it a competition.

It may be easier for men to lose weight, but that doesn’t make it a competition.

Society Sucks

The most important reason though may be society’s influence. Society gives women and girls such a horrible standard to meet through pop culture, the media, and the fashion world in general. Men, quite frankly, aren’t held to the same standard. Women are constantly being bombarded with images from all over that they have to be skinny, skinny, skinny if they want to be attractive, and this is such a tragedy.

And I mean tragedy. It’s a strong word, but it’s true. Women and girls feel so pressured to lose weight, and possibly lose at such a rate that they put their health in danger, that they can easily suffer an eating disorder.

The fashion world is so weird in how it does things. A fashion magazine can have one article devoted to healthy weight loss, and then on the next page, have a model who has obviously been starving herself modeling clothes. Where is the consistency in that. There are also numerous stores who have been criticized for airbrushing the pictures of their already skinny models to make them look thinner. If that wasn’t bad enough, most of those stores don’t want women who go over a size 14 to wear their clothes, so they simply don’t make them. One thing I have come across when reading other blogs is that women who are just getting started on the weight loss journey will often say one of the reasons they want to lose weight is to be able to buy clothes in stores they want, not just the ones that will fit.

Another problem is how the media and pop culture portray women and what they expect. I have never heard of a single actress who didn’t say the director told them to lose ten pounds when they began filming a movie. Whenever there is a reality show that comes on that focuses on a woman or group of women, weight is almost always one of the first things discussed in the media. It’s ridiculous how obsessed the media can be with trying to see just how skinny women can be.

Another serious issue is just men in general. Men have bought into this skinny-at-all-costs look for women. It’s been a number of years since I read this, but I read that in the 1950s, men found 50% of the female population attractive. Today, men find 10% of the female population attractive. That is just plain sad. I know lots of people who have said their husbands or boyfriends hassle them about their weight on a regular basis. If that guy is willing to leave you over your weight, then he is the one with the problem, not you.

Women have to be given support about their body image because so many have such a poor perception of it. This hits me personally on two levels because I have both a wife and a daughter. I love my wife for the wonderful person that she is, and will always be. I think she is the most beautiful of all of God’s creation, and no amount of weight gain or weight loss of hers will ever change that. My daughter is only seven months old, but I don’t want her to have some of these struggles. I want my daughter to realize that she is worth more than the number on the scale. I want her to be able to look into a mirror and like what she sees no matter what society might tell her.

With society hounding women like it does, I think it is pretty easy to see why so many women get discouraged on their weight loss journey. It would be so easy to become distressed about the scale. Society should encourage women to be healthy, not skinny. If you don’t think there is a difference, trust me when I tell you there is.

When you add up these three factors, height, motivation, and society, I think it is easy to see why women have a harder time. They are put behind the eight ball so to speak when it comes to losing weight compared to their male counterparts.

I hope you have a great day ladies and gentlemen and may all of your fitness dreams come true!